18 rules for dating my daughter
I called my own grandma today and my stepgrandmother. Do not rearrange the spice cabinet or clean out the silverware drawer or wipe down the counters no matter how much you want to. That’s all getting along is—being who you are and being accepted for it. I know they are closer to her kids but I would like my kids to have a bonding relationship with my in laws as well, my kids are not old enough to notice but what happens when they do? I'm the DIL and my baby is going to be born in a couple of weeks. Wouldn’t you have loved for your in-laws to ask you these things? Respect her wishes just as you wanted your mother-in-law to respect yours. She has only seen our kids a handful of times and that was because we drove them to her. I try to remember back to things that my MIL did to upset me so much and then try my best to avoid repeating her mistakes. I totally took it as an insult to my homemaker abilities. If your daughter-in-law asks you not do something, as in,“Please don’t give the children chocolate before they go to bed,” “Please don’t bring the kids another toy,” “Please, please, please don’t tell them stories about monsters,” listen to her. When we thought maybe she would like a relationship with them. I had a few of my own in my recent post- totally agree with the cleaning advise, I used to hate my MIL to clean.
Grandparents are there for support, not to blaze the path with the grandkids. My husband has a daughter from previous relationship and they weren't ever officially together and she contacts her all the time saying how she adores her and wants to see her granddaughter and yet she cant send me a text to ask how our kids are doing. I invited her to her own granddaughters 1st birthday 3 months out and she said she couldn't make it the day before but a few weeks later went to her friends 50th birthday. Now, I'd love someone, anyone, to clean my house lol.
Here are some of the things you shouldn't do and topics you should avoid: Don't talk about... My daughter-in-law refused to play the “What Are You Going to Name the Baby?
“She said she didn’t want a party,” my friend Anne reminded me later. So how do you avoid conflicts with your daughter-in-law?
My boss has been acting weird/standoffish towards me since I made this comment, and understandably so. This is problematic on multiple levels, including that you shouldn’t be calling teenage girls “whores” for expressing a perfectly age-appropriate, culture-appropriate interest in dating.
But he is also a devout Christian (we’ve discussed this many times), not to mention my boss. Actually, you shouldn’t be calling them “whores” even if it weren’t age-appropriate or culture-appropriate.
If it happens to be closer to her parents, that’s okay. And maybe you want to take them somewhere: to the beach, the zoo, a park, on vacation. On the floor when they are little, and board games as they get bigger. There are two kinds of grandparents: the get-on-their-level kind and the rise-to-my-level kind.