Dating someone 12 years older than me
Reconsidering my motivations for those decisions now, I recognize one that dominated the others: despite my attraction for those women at the time, I didn't want to look around myself ten years later and see a hotter, younger girl - closer to my own age - and think "I could have been with a girl like that instead." When my wife starts aging, I want the other girls I could have had (i.e.
those in my age-range) to be aging with her, so that I won't be constantly reminded of the sacrifice I made to be with her - even if it was one I know was worth it.
But I wasn’t some gold digger trying to claw at his cash account, or even a woman with daddy issues.
I just thought he was the hottest, funniest man I’d ever met.
My new tall, dark and handsome boyfriend was standing across the room looking so fine in his shirt; I couldn’t take my eyes off him. Meanwhile, I was at the snack table and before I could curse myself for leaving him to go in for another cheesy cracker, I was accosted by a buddy’s wife I barely knew, a bitch named Sue. I wanted to say something like, “He’s not as old as those frown lines make you look,” or “He has the biggest d**k I’ve ever seen!
It was my pal’s birthday party and the first time I had ever dragged my latest man-friend out with my buddies. ” Anything that would shut her up and let me enjoy my prized romance.
An acceptance of reality is the best response, and the reality is not nearly as bad as so many women believe.
Although most men of course prefer the looks or bodies of women in their twenties, we would still love to fuck those same women well into their forties - assuming they take care of themselves.
It tapers out slowly and often quite gracefully - far more slowly than it arises in a girl's late teens.
Older women are simply more interesting to be around.
This is because of the natural accumulation of experiences over time.
For the purpose of this post, by "older women" I do not mean old women or women of any certain age or age range; I mainly mean women who are older than the man in question. Older women are more confident and comfortable around men - especially younger men, since they know that their experience cancels out some of his natural power over her. Some men know that older women are easier to nail, which is often why they pursue them.
Older women should be cynical about younger men who claim they want to date seriously, or remain silent about commitment. Women peak somewhere in their twenties for external attractiveness. In general, men disagree about the age at which women "peak" - partially because it varies depending on the woman and partially because guys have different taste.
I spent about a year dating almost exclusively women older than myself.